I believe that as you grow older your circle gets smaller. This is because you become more wise on who your true friends are and who will be there for you when things hit south.
I personally have experienced a lot of friendships breakups since I left secondary school. I used to be the type of person that knew quite a lot of people and considered everyone a friend, obviously I was too naive to understand the true meaning of friendship.
Now at the age of 26 I know exactly how to distinguish between people that want what’s best for me and and are happy for me and people who secretly envy me or are happier to see me when I’m down.
I can agree that losing friends sometimes can be more heartbreaking than romantic relationship breakups, specially if you confide those people with your secrets, fears, emotions and your whole life! The fact is that they can use your vulnerability against you once you are no longer friends. However, you need to learn to let go and keep your distance from toxic people and people who add no value to your life. When you start cutting certain people off you realise that your life suddenly improves and you become happier. No, it is not a coincidence, bad energies do negatively affect your life so stay away from these bad vibes and surround yourself with positive people.
Another point that I want to get to is that if you feel like you have to constantly apologise to individuals who did you wrong just to not lose them, they are not your friends and never were in the first place, or if they don’t ever listen to you when you express your feelings, then they obviously don’t care.
The good thing about friends is that although you lose some, you definitely also gain awesome ones! I have friends that I’ve only known them for a few months who really were there for me in the hardest and most important moment in my life while the old ones totally ditched me so it was really a blessing meeting new people. I am so grateful to understand that there are still good people out there who will care for you whether you’re doing bad or good. Treasure those that make enough effort for you when they see you crumbling and in a desperate situation they will take over without you having to ask them.
There are also those friends that you grow up with and suddenly grow apart or the ones that you find out their true colours. They might have been there for you in the past but not there for you in the present. To those people, the best you can do is be appreciative on what they’ve done for you but be wise enough to know your worth as a friend if they start bringing you down in the present. If they are there for your struggles but refuse to celebrate your victories, girl I’m afraid they are not friends. In fact it shows jealousy on their part or some sort of negative feelings towards you. Real friends will be there with you no matter what happens even if you had a fall out they would not miss important occasions in your life, period!
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Another thing I would say is…your parents are usually your best friends in most cases as they understand you and know you better than everyone and would do anything for you no matter what! The love is unconditional ❤️.