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“Love is like a virus.
It can happen to anybody at any time.”
– Maya Angelou
I know that a lot of you will relate to me on this one. No matter whether you are a woman or man, you will realise that finding the perfect partner for us that will last a life time is almost impossible for the younger generation. In this post I will cover the following key points:
- The problems in dating
- What people expect and don’t receive
- Giving up easily ruins what it could’ve been
- The grass is not always greener on the other side
- No one wanting to settle down
♥ The problems in dating ♥
I believe that the most common mistake that we make when we start dating is the fact that we don’t know exactly what we want. Some people are too indecisive to get themselves into a relationship and do it anyway. This causes issues for both parties as one individual may be thinking that they have found the one but the indecisive person may have other plans in mind. Sometimes even I don’t really know what I want exactly because one minute I think it’s perfect but the next everything changes.
♥ What people expect and don’t receive ♥
I can tell you guys that as a human being we either always expect too much from the other person but don’t give enough back or it could be that we give a lot and get nothing in return. When it comes to relationships it is important that the amount we give and take is mutual…it is probably one of the hardest obstacles in relationships because if we feel like our partner is not making the same effort or even some effort to maintain the relationship strong then we just tend to assume that the feelings are not the same and that can really hurt us because deep down we just want to be love the same.
Also, having high expectations of someone can be really dangerous and risky specially if we do online dating. There are a lot of people out there who lie so much on the internet when in person they are completely different or act a different way, so it is important to take precaution by taking it slowly. In addition to that, I would suggest if you are dating online make sure that your pictures are not deceiving as it can cause your first real date to be really awkward as there might not be any attraction there, in other words don’t catfish anyone and be sure to investigate if they are for real too.
♥ Giving up easily ruins what it could’ve been ♥
A lot of young people in our generation miss the chance of finding real love because they give up easily after a little argument with the person that they start dating. It is vital to understand that no one is perfect and that it is better to make mistakes at the beginning of the relationship when you are starting to get to know each other. Of course it depends what the problem is as sometimes red flags help us understand that the person is not for us but, if it is something small then it is worth a try to make the relationship work. We often regret ending things with someone as sometimes we forget to give them a real chance.
♥ The grass is not always greener on the other side ♥
This is such a common one now. A lot of people have this mentality of “what if there is someone else out there that is much better than the current person that they are talking to?” And end up not realising that they have found what they are looking for but are too busy focusing on searching for someone else; or those that keep talking to multiple of people to find out if there is a better connection with someone else. I will tell you this now…it is a BAD IDEA!
In my opinion, when you meet someone that you like you need to focus on them solely to get to know them properly and give it a real chance in love. If it works you then build on that foundation of trust and loyalty but if it doesn’t then you are free to talk to other people. If you treat a person like they are an option it is more likely that it will cause problems and they will eventually give up. You wouldn’t like if you were really interested into someone and they were also flirting with other people and saying the same things to them. It is just way too exhausting and childish. Obviously if you both on the same page to talk to other people then that’s fine but otherwise, don’t do it!
♥ No one wanting to settle down ♥
I honestly don’t know why so many of us are refusing to settle down these days, maybe it is the pressure of commitment or are afraid from previous experiences they have had with other people, or even seeing that everyone is breaking up after years of wasting their lives with the wrong person. My only advice is that it is worth risking it in order to find the right person for you. No point of having pointless relationships with no future goals as that is wasting time. You want to at least try to find your soul mate and build a future together rather than ending up alone. I find it sad that some people on their late 20’s still just want to “have fun”. This expression is for immature people who still think like teenagers.
♥ Infidelity ♥
IF YOU’RE GOING TO CHEAT THEN YOU SHOULDN’T BE IN A RELATIONSHIP IN THE FIRST PLACE!
I find cheaters one of the worst kind of people on earth, I don’t care who you are but if you cheated before you are just as bad. Also, the thing about cheaters is that they never learn and cheat again when you give them another chance. I am lucky that I never had to go through with that but I know how painful it can be, if someone moves on too fast after you guys broke up can really make you feel like you were never good enough, then never mind if someone cheats on you.
I believe that if there is infidelity in a relationship, it is always best to end things because even if you do try to fix things the relationship becomes toxic, there is a lost of trust, there’s more jealousy and tension and the person that has been cheated on becomes more controlling. In other words, cheating and then going back together is like glass being broken and glued back together but you can still see the cracks. You can forgive but you will never forget.
I hope that this was helpful and that it somehow made you think differently if you are in a situation where you don’t know what to do regarding your love life.
Love you guys,