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“Grief can be the garden of compassion.
If you keep your heart open through everything,
your pain can become your greatest ally in your life’s search for love and wisdom.”
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Dealing with grief can be one of the hardest thing that we have to go through in life. Losing a loved one has never been easy specially if we were really close to them. Everyone has dealt with grief at some point in their lives including me. I have recently lost a family member that although we couldn’t see each other in person, she meant the world to me. I have decided to blog about this particular topic because I know that a lot of us struggle to move on from this sadness whether it is a death or simply a break up or even a falling out with a friend. In this blog I will be giving some tips to those that need guidance when dealing with grief.
♦ Friendships ♦
Like they say, “friends come and go“. It is just the way of life. We meet new people and sometimes they become part of our everyday life till something bad happens or simply the friendship drifts apart. It is painful to end a friendship but, we have to realise that it is rare to have a friendship that will last for a lifetime. Although we lose those friends that we simply adored, we can focus on the positive things such as: the amazing memories that we have shared with those friends, the things that we have learned from them but the most important, the lessons that they teach us (why the friendship ended in the first place).
The best way to move on from past friendships is to understand that you don’t need a hundred friends to be happy, quality over quantity. Also, if the friendship ended, it is obviously because it was not worth it, it was probably toxic at a certain point or, the friendship was bound to clash. Sometimes in life we have to let go of the people that we care about the most in order for them to move on with their lives as well as we moving on with ours.
♦ Relationships ♦
Grieving after a break up is really hard. I know that. There is nothing that can be said or done when someone is forced to move on with their lives without the person that they once loved. An individual may grieve over a break up because of betrayal or when their other half is no longer interested in being with them. Dealing with a break up depends for each one of us. This is because humans have different ways in dealing with these type of things. For example: some people may find it easier to consume alcohol and go out to meet a rebound to get over the person that they love, others may just cry their hearts out and become depressed, and there are others that can move on easily and just get on with their lives like nothing happened.
In my opinion, the best way to deal with grief in this type of situation is to remember that there are plenty of fish in the sea, you might be one person’s pebble while someone else might see you as a diamond because we are all worth it to someone. I suggest that you should just go with the flow and go and have fun to forget whatever is going through your mind. You don’t have to be a new you but changing your style and treating yourself will make you feel better. Khloe Kardashian’s Body Revenge seems to be working for some people so why not work out and improve your body shape and looks?
Try to find a hobby and spend time with your friends and family to prevent you from overthinking things. If you have enough funds, why not travel abroad and explore the amazing things that our planet has on offer? I don’t know, step out of your comfort zone, perhaps.
Also, if someone hurts you and you are still grieving, just forgive them but forget them, move on to better things in life as you don’t need to be in a toxic relationship. Grieving for them will not last forever anyway.
♦The death of a loved one♦
This is the hardest type of grief that us as human beings have to go through. Dealing with loss is not only hard but confusing. It is having the courage to accept that a loved one will never be present again. Some people go through denial as they prefer not to face the reality of things, others just forget about their own lives and become depressed. I myself when I hear that someone I know has passed away, I refuse to accept the reality and it takes me time to realise that this person will never be in my life again but maybe they are watching over me in a spiritual way. Therefore, there is no advice in how to get through with grief when it comes to death. We all deal with it in our own ways. However, it is important to know that we must get on with our lives and gain the courage to keep going, we have to take in mind that death is part of the cycle life. We must cherish the memories and be glad that we got to spend enough time with our loved ones.
“Don’t grieve. Anything you lose comes round in another form.”
― Jalaluddin Rumi
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xoxo Anita ♥♥♥